Everyone has encountered a coworker, friend, or family member who dominates conversations, making it difficult for others to contribute. According to communication strategist Dorie Clark, who has advised major firms including Google and Microsoft, there are tactful ways to interrupt such monopolizers without harming relationships. While managers typically have the authority to guide conversations at work, peers with good relationships can also address the issue directly. Recognizing that some monopolizers may be unaware of their behavior or simply enjoy talking, it’s important to address this dynamic to encourage collaboration and prevent frustration.

Clark offers practical techniques to manage conversation dominators effectively. One approach is using a brief, positive “break-in line,” such as “I love this!” to politely interrupt and redirect the dialogue before making your point. Another method is the “handoff technique,” which involves acknowledging something the monopolizer said and then inviting another person to speak, helping amplify other voices naturally. Both strategies aim to preserve goodwill while rebalancing the conversation so that more people can participate.

If these in-the-moment strategies don’t lead to lasting change, Clark suggests having a private conversation to gently name the pattern. For instance, acknowledging the person’s enthusiasm while explaining how their frequent interruptions limit others’ contributions may motivate awareness and adjustment. Additionally, creating a pre-agreed signal or phrase as a gentle cue during meetings can help the monopolizer self-monitor and gradually curb their habit without confrontation.

When informal measures fail or the relationship is strained, escalating the concern to a manager may be necessary. Instead of singling anyone out, employees can ask their boss to initiate a general discussion on meeting norms to encourage inclusive participation. This low-pressure approach lets leadership address the issue and improve team dynamics subtly. Clark’s guidance offers subtle but effective ways to encourage balanced conversations, fostering better connection and collaboration in professional and personal settings.